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HOW YOU KNOW YOU'RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
  • Does your partner or spouse criticize you often?

  • Does your partner or spouse embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?

  • Does your partner or spouse throw or break objects in the home or damage the home itself during arguments?

  • Are you afraid of the consequences of a fight?

  • Does your partner or spouse look at you or act in ways that scare you?

  • Do you constantly feel afraid at home? Has your partner or spouse threatened to hurt you or your children?

  • Have they put their hands on you against your will or has forced you to do something you did not want to do?

  • Has your partner or spouse ever forced you to have sex or made you do things during sex that make you feel uncomfortable?

  • Does your partner or spouse demand sex when you are sick, tired, or sleeping?

  • Does your partner or spouse refuse to let you sleep at night?

  • Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from taking medication you needed or from seeking medical help?

  • Has your partner or spouse ever hurt your pets or destroyed your clothing, objects in your home, or something which you especially cared about?

  • Is your partner or spouse excessively jealous - for example, always calling you at work or home to check up on you?

  • Has your partner or spouse threatened to commit suicide if you leave?

  • Is it hard for you to maintain relationships with your friends, relatives, neighbors, or co-workers because your partner or spouse disapproves of, argues with, or criticizes them?

  • Does your partner or spouse accuse you of unjustly flirting with others or having affairs?

  • Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from leaving the house?

  • Does your partner or spouse make it hard for you to find or keep a job or go to school?

  • Does your partner or spouse withhold money from you when you need it?

  • Does your partner or spouse sometimes spend large sums of money and refuse to tell you why or what the money was spent on?

  • Has your partner or spouse ever used or threatened to use a weapon against you? Are there guns in your home?

  • Does your partner or spouse abuse drugs or alcohol? What happens?

If you've answered yes to one or more of these questions
GET OUT!

If you're not sure how - use this DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SAFETY PLAN

You can also use this step by step CHECKLIST to make sure your way out is a safe one!
Questions and Information Courtesy of: American Bar Association